Tagged: After Abuse

Finding your voice … Learning to Speak up after being Marginalized.

during my time dealing with abuse I learned that my voice didn’t matter. I’m sure some of the message was given to me by media … But it was driven home by a relationship that said “I love you, but you really shouldn’t be yourself”. Maybe not in those words, but in a tone of little ways and actions and events.

How to Stop Hiding & Be Yourself – The Chameleon’s struggle to Self-Identify

You see chameleons use their blending abilities to avoid being seen.  Often we are uncomfortable or feel threatened and feel the need to protect ourselves.  But mostly this is a sign of a deeply insecure person.  Don’t get me wrong, there are strong people out there who use the chameleon skills to good effect, and I aspire to one day do that.  But those people knowingly put on a mask of chameleonhood, they don’t wear it all the time.  And they never break their core values or beliefs for the sake of being a chameleon.