Self Care

All Mammas need and deserve time to take care of themselves.  No matter how you fill your day taking care of yourself is just as important as taking care of those around you.

How Maternity Leave Helped me Build a Better Relationship With Myself

I never really thought that going on maternity Leave would help me build a better relationship with myself. I mean really, the concept had never crossed my mind as even being compatible.  Maternity Leave, after all, is meant to help you heal after birth and help you bond with a new baby…. not figure out … Read more

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Finding your voice … Learning to Speak up after being Marginalized.

during my time dealing with abuse I learned that my voice didn’t matter. I’m sure some of the message was given to me by media … But it was driven home by a relationship that said “I love you, but you really shouldn’t be yourself”. Maybe not in those words, but in a tone of little ways and actions and events.

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How to define your dreams after the world has beaten them out of you.

If you’ve given up on your childhood dreams you may not remember what they are now. Or they may have grown up into something new you hadn’t thought of yet.

Most of of us are taught to conform to other people’s expectations, often we are molded and shaped to to pursue something that leaves us cold and empty inside.

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Hiding the Truth with Camouflage

I’ve been trying to write this post for a while now.  The words just are not wanting to come out in the way they normally do so stay with me, I promise this will be worth the read. For most of my life I’ve used something called “social camouflage”.  Meaning I’ve learned many ways to … Read more

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How to Re-define your Core Values

Core Values also know as your belief system are integral to how we see the world around us and influence many if not all our choices.  They are the heart of who we are. I’m not talking about ethics or morals here, nor am I talking about a specific religion or formalized belief system.  I’m … Read more

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Dealing with life when you are Overwhelmed and Mentally Exhausted

What do you do when you’re mentally overwhelmed and exhausted? It feels like you are drowning in your own head, or like hiding out under the bed covers is a feasible option. But we all have responsibilities, so in the midst of a busy life here is how to break free of the overwhelm and mental exhaustion.

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The Journey to Building better Self Trust

for those of us looking to take the journey to healing and wholeness, at some point we need to start re-developing our ability to trust.  And most importantly to Trust ourselves. It’s not easy and it can be scary. To tust we have to open up our defenses and let other people in. It can be done, and it’s worth the fight with yourself. Here are some tips on how to start the process.

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The Silver Lining in Every Cloud

I think by now that you know I’m a “Glass Half Full” type person.  For me, that includes things like keeping a gratitude journal, looking at the positive in every situation and so on. If you’ve read any of my other posts you know I’m also an abuse survivor. Most people don’t see those 2 … Read more

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Starting the Journey to Self-Healing & Discovery

Wether you have a light-bulb moment or a soft prompting in your heart like I did, recognizing that something needs to change is the first step. Here is how I took it.

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How to Stop Hiding & Be Yourself – The Chameleon’s struggle to Self-Identify

You see chameleons use their blending abilities to avoid being seen.  Often we are uncomfortable or feel threatened and feel the need to protect ourselves.  But mostly this is a sign of a deeply insecure person.  Don’t get me wrong, there are strong people out there who use the chameleon skills to good effect, and I aspire to one day do that.  But those people knowingly put on a mask of chameleonhood, they don’t wear it all the time.  And they never break their core values or beliefs for the sake of being a chameleon.

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